Sunday, August 1, 2010
My dear friend, Evelyn
Today I was handed some shocking news. My dear friend from when my kids were little has lung cancer and is at the point of death. Her daughter is a friend on facebook, but I didn't know she was Evelyn's daughter until she posted that her mother was dying. It hit me like a ton of bricks. Ours had been an unlikely friendship. We met at a really hard time in Evelyn's life. Her husband was very ill, and she was looking at a long road ahead, caring for him, waiting on the love of her life to be slowly taken away from her. She was having a bad day, the stresses of the situation had gotten to her, and I just thought she didn't like me. It would be weeks before someone would tell me why she was so moody. Once I understood that part, our friendship grew. She and I had bowling in common, and I substituted on her team many times. She was such a different person when she had the chance to relax and enjoy herself. Our friendship grew and continued for many years. After she quit bowling, we lost track of each other...until today. I had thought of her many times through the years, but the time never seemed right to go look her up. Why do we wait too long sometimes? I was in hopes that there might still be time to go and talk to her one more time, but that is not to be. She is in a coma now and the opportunity was never made available to me, so I wait...for news, that I don't want to hear.